Wedding planning is stressful for everyone involved. Everyone’s working hard to make it the best day of your life, so it’s no surprise that there are some tensions. Those are inevitable between friends, families, and even future newlyweds.
Of course, planning a wedding is very important. However, no plans are as important as you and your partner’s relationship. Don’t let the cake and linen discussions ruin the vibe. We provided a few tips on how to keep the romance alive and going during the months before the big day.
Have “no-wedding-talk” nights once in a while
During your courtship, you had date nights and got to know each other through talking about work, sports, books, events – you name it. A wedding is an important step for you both, but it doesn’t strip away your hobbies, interests and what makes you you. Not every evening has to be filled with wedding talk. You two can gossip about work, friends, talk about your day – or simply Netflix and chill. Don’t let wedding planning take over the lives of the two of you.
Keep the romance alive
An engagement doesn’t mean that the romantic part of your lives is over – you two are getting married for love and you shouldn’t take each other for granted. Even married people have date nights. Making time for each other should always be a priority, particularly during stressful times, which wedding planning can sometimes be. Go to dinner once a week, a nice pre-bedtime walk, or bring each other breakfast in bed. And make sure you communicate clearly to your partner how much they’re loved. It’s the little things that count.
Do the “romantic planning” together
Not all parts of wedding planning are boring. For instance, cake and wine tasting can be a lot of fun, especially if you make it a couple’s activity. A lot of couples also take dance lessons together, but if that’s not your cup of tea, don’t worry! Even making a wedding playlist together can be romantic, when you go over the songs that mean a lot to both of you. Same with looking through your pictures of sweet memories for the reception slide show.
Delegate some tasks to family and friends
We know that you want to be in control of your wedding day – that’s totally understandable. But you can’t let it overwhelm you. That carries a big risk of losing the sight of the big picture and making your partner feel less valued. Rather than micromanaging everything, assign some tasks to bridesmaids and groomsmen – that’s what they’re there for. The more time you spend with your partner, the better – your accountant aunt can keep track of the expenses, and your future sister-in-law who owns an apiary can sort out the honey wedding favours.
Enjoy planning the honeymoon
By focusing on the honeymoon and dreaming about the activities you’re gonna do, even if it’s just a fantasy, can serve as a great balance to the boring wedding talk. Unlike wedding plans, the honeymoon doesn’t have to factor in anybody else. There are no guest lists to bicker over and no cake vendors to control. Honeymoon planning is all about fun! And it’ll even get you more excited for the day and the trip that comes right afterwards.